Failure is the Feedback
And your worth has nothing to do with it
Hi, I’m Lenaleah, your guide upon the road of self-discovery, providing guidance on how to be an Alchemist in life. I also write fictional tales and random essays to spice things up. Welcome, its lovely to see you here.
“How do you know it will work?”
One thing I love about children is that they ask the questions the rest of us are thinking, but are too afraid to ask. We limit ourselves when we miss the opportunity to ask a question that stems from a truly curious thought.
Curiosity or the general need to understand, is exactly the ingredient we need to trust the truth of intuitive nudges. So why don’t we do it more often?
I have theory, not based on anything scientific or grand, just based off personal experience and being a witness to countless souls learning to trust themselves and their alchemy. The theory is this:
We stop asking questions because we are frightened of the answers.
What if you are right, and you have to make the big move to another city in order to follow your dream?
What if the next great invention is meant to come from you, but the time and effort to do it seems too monumental to even consider?
I’m over simplify how life really works here, but you get my drift. Asking the questions that move us in the direction of our dreams means we might be willing to actually follow through and keep going forward.
Failure is the most important part of this process
In the stories I’ve read of alchemy, there is one part of the process that sticks out the most to me. The fragile coalescence of substance into a new form. Too much of one item sets the balance off for the next stage of the chemical process. The result is failure if the balance is not exact. This can be true of life.
And failure teaches us where we need to push harder or go gently.
We discover more.
And yet we all hate to freaking fail! As a recovering perfectionist, I will admit, there was a time when I would have rather avoided a task that had the potential to fail than just take the darn thing on and wing it.
Winging it is powerful, requires countless brain cells of creativity, and builds the kind of intuitive muscles that move mountains.
Failure is our feedback.
It’s a guidepost of epic proportions because what we gain in the defeat we would never had learned in the win.
You don’t have to prove your worth.
None of this is about being worthy of universal favor. We don’t fail because we are unworthy, we fail for one of two reasons: either we didn’t do the task correctly or we didn’t think the thoughts that backed the action with a strong enough central focus. Neither of these has anything to do with worth.
While I would never attempt to join an Olympic team at my age, it doesn’t mean I can’t enter some other sport competition. There are limits to what can be done, and most them land in one of two categories: physical limitations and gravity.
Believing in the power of thought, allowing for the magic of trust, along with a vision of the outcome to take you places, is as simple as saying yes and getting started. Let curiosity drive you when you hit a road block and keep searching for those guideposts to let you know the universe is cheering you on.
Let’s Get this Failure Party Started!
Lenaleah 💕